Enhancing Self-Trust with Your Love Language

I think just about everyone is familiar with the five love languages (did you see they added a couple new ones? Shared experiences and emotional safety!)

But I wanted to talk about how you can use your love language to enhance your self-trust.

When I say self-trust, I really mean your belief that you can cope or handle anything you go through in life.

This is an important aspect of your identity, because without it you'll always be stuck in a loop of fear and control, neither of which foster an aligned way of living or an authentic state of being.

So if you think you might struggle with self-trust, look for your love language below and some of the ideas I've come up with on how you can use that language to enhance your own connection to self!

Words of Affirmation

If your love language is words of affirmation, that means it feels good to you to be recognized, acknowledged, and affirmed. To use this when building your self-trust, you really want to know that what you tell yourself you mean, and that you will always have your own back.

This could look like:

-validating your feelings rather than dismissing or ignoring them

-acknowledge your accomplishments and give them to yourself in the form of compliments

-tell yourself what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear, but in a compassionate way

Physical Touch

If your love language is physical touch, this means that it feels good to you to be physically acknowledged...or....touched. lol This one is mine! To use this when building your self-trust, you really want to know that you listen and respect your own body, and can trust yourself to take care of yourself physically.

This could look like:

-keeping regular health appointments

-being gentle when you're practicing self-care

-listen to your body when it's sending you a message, rather than ignoring it

Gifts

If your love language is gifts, this means it makes you feel good to be given gifts, or to be thought of when you're not around. To use this when building your self-trust, you really want to give yourself gifts daily...to always be thinking of you.

This could look like:

-make one small promise to yourself a day (and keep it)

-prioritize your needs daily

-give yourself little treats of compassion throughout the week

Quality Time

If this is your love language, that means it really fills your cup to spend quality time with people you care about. To use this for building your self-trust, you really want to spend time with yourself in a way that you trust yourself to be alone with just you.

-spend time daily in silence with just your thoughts and feelings

-reflect weekly about how you're doing through journaling

-take yourself out alone, without distractions

Acts of Service

Last but not least, if this is your love language this means that you feel good when people you care about do things for you-maybe even things that you don't really want to do but need to get done. To use this for building your self-trust, you want to do things for yourself and keep your commitments.

This could look like:

-keeping boundaries that you set (both internal and external)

-monitoring your energy and knowing when it's time for you to recharge

-sticking to your habits and goals regardless of motivation

Hopefully these gave you some ideas of ways you can build your self-trust with methods that feel good for your love language at the same time.

Even if you feel like your self-trust is pretty good, these are just good habits to get into regardless!

Let me know below if there's any other ideas you'd add in for your love language!